And this right here — it’s not an easy thing to have someone point out something YOU need to do to free yourself from pain when you’ve been doing it all of your life. You are taking the initiative to lift others’ pain from them, even when they may not be in pain, you assume, they are. That never works out for you. TRUST ME ON THIS.
What’s best? Sitting with them when they invite you to move through the pain with them, don’t take it on. They’re already carrying it, simply help them move it along… They must get over the hurdle alone. You keep piling weight on to you that’s not needed and you’ll be buried alive.
Thank you for submitting, FF. This is where it needs to be. Peace.