This is so real Tre! I have the same issue and I am so tired of waiting for the other shoe to drop! I want people to handle their shit and leave me the fuck alone. I don’t want to be their lifeline, savior, soothsayer, whatever! Leave me alone! You ever notice th…
I am going to tell you something, but I know that you know it already, you just have not done it.
You gotta tell them. I have had to do so to some, straight up, “You seem to like doing the same things over and over again that warrant negative results, so how about this, do you, and leave me out of it.”
With my siblings, it is harder. I am significantly older than all of them, so where they are in life, I have seen, I know… the outcome, if not handled accordingly, will blow all the way up in their faces. My kid sister just turned 17. The oldest boy/man is 28. My other siblings are in-between, with the youngest boy/man recently turning 26.
I advise these two, the oldest and the youngest, differently. I can say something to my sister of substance and she takes it, applies it, and benefits from it. I can say something to my brothers and they will take it, toss it about, throw it across the street, hoping it will boomerang back, and they lose it. So what happens, the circle? We start all over again.
I do not mind advising them on how to be an adult, but I cannot be the adult they need to be for them.