When I was in high school up until about 26 or so, I’d get a lot of what you mentioned from the women in my family. Actually, it was all a bit more blatant, sort of like, “I hope you don’t plan on being a tomboy for the rest of your life” and “You have a nice shape, you should show it off more.”
I had a few quips for them as I got older, so that died down. Most of them are divorced, angry, unhappily married, etc…I feel their pain, but I knew what comfort was and I still do. I wasn’t sacrificing it to lasso some dude into my life.
Good for you Sara to be yourself and not conform to some “traditional standards” for women.